I JUST GOT A DIVORCE – NOW WHAT?

• Posted: September 1, 2008
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• Author: Dad
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• Filed under: Ask Adam's Dad
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• Tags: Ask Adam's Dad, contemplating divorce, divorce, divorce advise, friends and family

My Dad is on a roll now, he loves blogging! I have to keep reminding myself why I am doing this site. The original purpose is to help others. It is so easy to be on the giving advise side, right? But listening to that advise and sorting out what fit into your life experience is the key and the hard part. My dad has always been a wealth of objective information. From his words I always take what works for me. His "second opinion" has been must constructive in my life, in personal matters and business. So here is another quick post from Adam's Dad....

I JUST GOT A DIVORCE/NOW WHAT?

You have probably just read “Adam’s wedding dress.” It is a great true story, but I might be prejudiced, I am Adam’s dad. Adam’s Mom and I have been married going on 63 years! So, you ask “what the heck do you know about divorce?” Not much, I admit, but I saw my son go through one and it wasn’t pretty.You’re hurt, betrayed, confused. You have gone to your friends, to your family, to your religious contacts and perhaps to your friendly bar tender.

They all seem to tell you the same thing, “life goes on.” You had your life all planned and then this. Was it your fault? What now? After the drinking, and the one-night stands you are still hurting inside and you can’t seem to shake the feeling. You blame everything and everybody, including yourself, but you still can’t seem to get over it. You have to get these feelings out of you, but how.

Let me digress for just a moment. About 40 or so years ago, I was lamenting my life and questioning why I was put here on earth. The only possible answer was to help other people. Therein is the answer to getting this whole thing out of your system, helping other people. Volunteer at a food bank or serve meals to the poor or become a docent at a museum. Anything that will make a difference in another person’s life will make a difference in yours. Your life will have purpose again. Try it! Peace.
–Adam’s Dad

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