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Thank you for calling me wise
My dad sent me a follow up to his work on this site. I have created a monster! Great advice to live by.
MAKING LEMONADE
I want to thank the person who called me wise. Wisdom, believe it or not, does not automatically come with age. Wisdom, to a large extent, comes from mistakes! Permit me to point out why and how.
A mistake, handled properly by you, can be an amazing learning opportunity. The Wright Brothers made a mistake in the design of their wings. They made a learning opportunity out of the mistake and look where aircraft are now. Someone in a lab in London made a mistake and left some bread out on a table and the mistake led to penicillin.
O.K. so you’re not going to invent an aircraft or a medical miracle. Perhaps your mistake was a marriage! A bigger mistake can be made here by not admitting it’s your mistake. By trying to place the blame elsewhere (which I believe is a human failing), you deny the opportunity of giving yourself a learning experience. Heaven knows that I have made many mistakes in my life, but I made as many as I could into a learning experience and in doing that, perhaps I have become wiser. DON’T BE AFRAID OF MAKING MISTAKES. DON’T GET DOWN ON YOURSELF FOR MAKING A MISTAKE. Remember this old adage, “Smart people, with a lot of lemons make lemonade. Peace.
–Adam’s Dad
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Me (Carla) said:
Adam’s Dad, I was right. You are wise. Thank you for that post. I’ve never been afraid to make a mistake or own up to it. We are all only human, although a long ago employer told me he hated that as an excuse. No excuse, just fact. I can learn a lot from you and hope you will continue to post. We can all learn from each other; in fact, I learned something from Adam the other day. Funny how someone else’s perspective can make you see something entirely different. Adam will always have my support.
Dave Yates said:
Amen to that Mr. W.
I should probably have a Phd. in life right now, based on all the mistakes I’ve made… but exactly as you pointed out… it took me many many moons to realize a simple but profound truth. My whole life… whenever there were real difficulties, the ONLY constant, is that I WAS THERE.
I’ve still got a shovel, and have quite a lot of work to do… guess I’m a late bloomer. Better late than never I guess.
It’s very cool to get the feedback of your life experience here… as well as Adam’s. You “W” guys are a class act. (Are we using last names around here?)
Warm regards,
Dave
Doc M said:
Hi Adam’s Dad! I’ve really enjoyed your posts thus far. I’m sure we will all benefit from your wisdom. I agree with you on the importance of keeping yourself in check when it comes to placing blame on others or the world. It seems like the victim mentality just keeps people prisoners of their own life. Interestingly, I just read an article on key traits of miraculous survivors and it said this:
“Most of these survivors share the same traits, Gonzales says.
“These are people who tend to have a view of the world that does not paint them as a victim,” he says. “They’re not whiners who are always complaining about the bad things that are happening to them and expecting to get rescued.”
I think this is also relevant to “surviving” divorce. Thanks again for the reminder, Adam’s Dad!
In good health,
Dr. M
BTW, here is the full article if anyone wants to read it CNN Article – Click Here
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