Life After Divorce – Choose to feel good, don’t choose to feel bad!

• Posted: November 7, 2008
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• Author: Adam
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• Filed under: Divorce Discussions
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• Tags: divorce recovery, divorce support

Could your emotions help you with your Divorce Recovery?

I realize that many of you reading this post have also read The Secret. I have not. I do however understand that my thinking is very similar to the concepts provided in that book. If I am not mistaken, The Secret started out as a documentary about the writings and teachings of Esther and Jerry Hicks. The premise of these writings, and The Secret, are that the universe will deliver to you what it is you ask of it. I have read “The Law of Attraction” and found it changed my thinking perspective as a whole. So here is my divorce support group post of the day.

OK. I want 12 bars of gold (of course gold, the US dollar is not worth what it used to be) Universe DELIVER!

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…. still waiting…..

That did not work!

How does this relate to Life after a divorce? If I did not get the gold, how the hell am I going to get the happiness, the new relationship, the joy, the ending of the pain and all the other things that I am missing in my life? Let me look deeper in to this with you now….and move away from asking the universe for stuff and concentrate more on feeling good!

Do you have a friend that is a doomsday person. Total negative energy. Everything is always wrong. The world is against them. They have the worst “luck”. The are always in a bad mood, down. Chances are that person is always sick or hurt as well. Think about this long and hard for a minute. Is it the world that is making this person this way? Could they choose not to be this way?

How about the opposite, do you have a friend that is riding high on life. Everything always seems to go their way. They make money without even trying. They are always cheery and happy. Good fortune just seems to fall from the sky right into their laps. They get all the breaks in the world. Is it the world that is making this person this way? Are they choosing NOT to be this way?

I have found a plain and simple fact. When I feel good, everything is GREAT. I sing in my car, my body feels good, things seem to go my way. Cars pull out of prime parking places at the mall right in front of me…i say to myself, this is good living!

When I feel bad, my body feels bad, I never make a stop light, there are never parking places, I bang my funny bone on the door, my dog pisses on my bedroom floor…it is a rut tunnel and I fall deeper and deeper in it.

I want you to try this exercise. CHOOSE THE WAY YOU WANT TO FEEL. Yes, that is the exercise. Why do you think the alcoholic drinks, one reason, to feel different right? Well you can do it without alcohol, you just choose how you want to feel. It is so simple to do you will feel embarrassed you did not think of it yourself. You have but 2 choices right now. One is to continue to sob and feel like shit about your divorce, your lost relationship, your embarrassment of being alone….OR….you can focus on something that makes you feel good. That is it. Period. IF YOU FEEL BAD RIGHT NOW, CHOOSE TO FEEL GOOD. Don’t make the excuse that it is easy for me to say…it is easy for me to say and do. STOP and think about a good time you had in the past. Think of your children, your pet that is always there for you, your parents love, the time you did your first beer bong, your first great kiss, whatever…just think of something good! You will feel it immediately in your body. From that good feeling parlay it to another. CHOOSE NOT TO FEEL BAD.

We tend to overlook our emotions. They are a 100% true indicator of where we are in our present moment. Use your emotions to your advantage. If you are starting to feel bad, or uneasy, stop right there and realize that this is how you are feeling. PUT THE REASON FOR THIS OUT OF YOUR HEAD and think positive, joyful thoughts.

Now let me connect all my thoughts here for you. If you are feeling good, the world is falling into place for you. You are my latter subject above, the one that is carefree and living the good life. If you are feeling bad, you are the doomsday person….everything is falling apart. I know that we all want to be happy. If you start with listening to your emotions and adjusting your point of view as your emotions dictate, you will snowball into the person you want to be.

To really get the concept of this, read Ask and It Is Given by Abraham-Hicks. But do so with an open mind. If you are religious, have a real open mind when you read this….think less of the relation to your religious beliefs and focus more on the practical concepts of feeling good!

When i say smiling is your best medicine, I really mean it….you will start a chain reaction of joy that just keeps growing, you will feel it deep inside you…it is AMAZING.

I credit: Abraham-Hicks

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