http://www.adamsweddingdress.com/2009/01/10/when-to-date-after-divorce/ Divorce Stories and Divorce Support for the Modern World Thu, 25 Aug 2011 15:44:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.adamsweddingdress.com/2009/01/10/when-to-date-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-91 Sara Tue, 13 Jan 2009 05:17:32 +0000 http://www.adamsweddingdress.com/?p=519#comment-91 It varies not only from person to person but from experience to experience. With my second-to-last boyfriend, I was pretty much over him, emotionally, within a few weeks, and was ready to start dating despite the fact that we'd been together for YEARS and lived together for years. I think the last year of our relationship I had sort of "pre" grieved and separated myself emotionally. But with my recent boyfriend, although we didn't date as long, I feel it will take me a long time. I got asked out recently by a few great guys, and I'd love to give it a try, but even the thought of going out, being social, the pressure of something more...just can't do it. I feel badly missing out on potentially cool people, but I'm not ready. Some people you're with affect you more deeply and time doesn't always count into it. My non-married two cents. ;) It varies not only from person to person but from experience to experience. With my second-to-last boyfriend, I was pretty much over him, emotionally, within a few weeks, and was ready to start dating despite the fact that we’d been together for YEARS and lived together for years. I think the last year of our relationship I had sort of “pre” grieved and separated myself emotionally. But with my recent boyfriend, although we didn’t date as long, I feel it will take me a long time. I got asked out recently by a few great guys, and I’d love to give it a try, but even the thought of going out, being social, the pressure of something more…just can’t do it. I feel badly missing out on potentially cool people, but I’m not ready. Some people you’re with affect you more deeply and time doesn’t always count into it. My non-married two cents.

]]> http://www.adamsweddingdress.com/2009/01/10/when-to-date-after-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-90 alison Sat, 10 Jan 2009 22:21:32 +0000 http://www.adamsweddingdress.com/?p=519#comment-90 Great thoughts Adam. You are right, it's all about mindset, it can be years before you are ready, or as in my case, you might meet the right one immediately... although that was really scary, I was so emotionally and physically deprived of true affection I just decided to go for it. I wasn't worried about "what if it doesn't last", I just decided to enjoy this man, take it one day at a time and see what happened. Eight years later, here we are, married for almost five. You just never know. Great thoughts Adam. You are right, it’s all about mindset, it can be years before you are ready, or as in my case, you might meet the right one immediately… although that was really scary, I was so emotionally and physically deprived of true affection I just decided to go for it. I wasn’t worried about “what if it doesn’t last”, I just decided to enjoy this man, take it one day at a time and see what happened. Eight years later, here we are, married for almost five. You just never know.

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