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Really a single parent!

Posted: March 19, 2009
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Author: Adam
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Filed under: Divorce Discussions
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Tags: custody battle, divorce, long time friends, mediation process, relationship, single parent

Can’t sleep, late night post!

I’ve never written on the topic of “single parent” to date; however, something that I heard yesterday really shook my world. As you may know from reading this blog, my ex did not leave me with anything in the way of children, we had none…she left just the dogs. So my personal experience regarding a divorce with children is not in my immediate world. A divorce with children is in my world however.

I recieved a call from one of my very dear and long time friends yesterday. He has been divorced for 6 months less then I have. I was by his side coaching him on during his hard time. His hard time never really ended. He was not as fortunate as I have been. His relationship ended much the same as mine, just a disconnect between two people. Unlike my mediation process, his divorce was a full fledged war of the attorney’s. For her good reasons, she battled him for every penny he had…the horror story divorce. Right down to fact of claiming his success what due to her support! Neither party won in the long run…he really took it on the chin…yes I am very biased, but his strory is real insanity.

Yesterday he told me that she is now serving him with papers to start a custody battle with him. THREE YEARS LATER. You see, she met someone back east, and now she wants to move back east and take their kids with her. He will lose his kids AND have to pay her more child support! She even told him that her attorney said it would be best if he picked up the serving papers himself at her attorney’s office!!!!! The damage to these children has to be irreversible, no?

My friend is torn to shreds again. Now he has to fight for his kids! Can someone be that selfish to take children away from a parent? Under what circumstance is this acceptable? My friend is a very successful stand up guy. He is a great father too. I know there is another side to every story, but I am so sad tonight..not only for my friend, but for everyone that must endure this sensless hell that we have created.

That is all I’m saying….