Divorced man marries couple, film at 11:00 | You may now kiss the bride!

• Posted: April 27, 2009
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• Author: Adam
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• Filed under: Divorce Stories,Features
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• Tags: blog, divorce, friends and family, marriage, wedding dress

In an unusual turn of events, I want to share with you how cool life can be, more so, the possibilities!

Yes, I am divorced and have faced many challenges over the past years. I’ve often been asked if I would re-marry. Although it is very difficult to ponder marriage so soon after divorce, I still have obligations to my past marriage among other fears and concerns, I always knew in my heart that I will have a wife, sometime in the future that is, YES, I will have a wife, YES. (I just rented Yes Man)

I never thought I would remarry so soon!

What am I talking about, remarry? Well, that is a bit misleading. One of my very close friends bestowed upon me one of the greatest honors this past Saturday, the honor of presiding over his wedding. A few years ago I introduced he and his girlfriend. They came to me a month ago and asked if I would marry them. Wow! Me? The divorced guy with the divorce website!

Last night was enlightening. Over the past few years, my focus has been to offer help to others getting over and through their divorce. In doing that, I lost the focus on what it means to be married. Rather then look though the eyes of a divorcee, considering that any new relationship is destined to fail, I looked though the eyes of a man that is open to all possibilities. This is a new beginning that I will work on more! Lord only knows how I was put in the position to marry Ernie and Molly, but it opened my eyes to the endless opportunities that life has to offer. I forgot about my failed marriage and had a very warm feeling in my heart for a successful marriage.

The MC asked Ernie and Molly to stand as the newest married couple, he then asked all other married couples to stand, one by one he eliminated them leaving the longest married couple standing, ironically, that couple was my parents. Adam’s Dad and Mom….

Mom and Dad, 63 years and dancing

So if you ever wondered if you will ever recover from your divorce, consider that the universe works in the strangest ways, teaching us as we walk the path of our lives. Always be open to the possibilities!

What a night! Below you will find the cheat notes from my service…enjoy and consider the possibilities!

Ernie and Molly’s Wedding – Adam’s Cheat Sheet!

Molly’s Dad walks her down the aisle:

The marriage of Ernie and Molly is more then just the union of two people in love. It’s also the joining of two families, of two sets of friends and of two patterns of life. Who stands with this woman in support of the blessing of this marriage?
Dad says: Her Mother and I do.

I Start the Ceremony:

Welcome, I’d like to start our ceremony with several love quotes. I hope you are as inspired with them as i have been.

Funny thing is I took these off a post I did here on Adam’s Wedding Dress

• You can give without loving, but, you cannot love without giving
• To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven
• Love is not finding someone to live with, it’s finding someone you can’t live without
• Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality
• Love is not blind — it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less
• Love can happen anywhere, at any time, and almost always when we least expect it
• I love you, not for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you
• I love her and that’s the beginning of everything.
• There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.
• The more I give to thee, the more I have, for both are infinite.
• Love, the magician, knows this little trick whereby two people walk in different directions yet always remain side by side
• Love is not a matter of what happens in life. It’s a matter of what’s happening in your heart
• Where there is great love, there are always miracles
• Lust is when you love what you see. Love is when you lust for what’s inside
  We cannot choose who we love, only whose love we accept
• You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.
• Love doesn’t make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
• A simple I love you means more than money
• The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
• Love sees roses without thorns.
• To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.
• Love is patient; love is kind; it does not envy; it does not boast; it is not proud. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking; it is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
• And Finally: To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, but to be loved by the one you love is everything

Now for my monologue about how Ernie and Molly met, start with: For the past 2 weeks I have pondered the honor….and wing the rest for 4 minutes! Don’t blow it Adam

Now I will have Ernie and Molly Share their wedding vows

Molly’s Vows…
Ernie’s Vows….

Now the I-do’s
Do you Ernie, Welcome Molly as your wife, offering her your love and encouragement, your trust and respect, as together you create your future?
I do
Do you, Molly, Welcome Ernie as your husband, offering him your love and encouragement, your trust and respect, as together you create your future?
I do

May I have the Rings please

Ernie Please Take This Ring
Ernie, As you place the ring on Molly’s finger, Please repeat after me:
I give you this Ring as a reminder
that I will love, honor, and cherish you,
In all times, In all places
And in all ways, forever

Molly Please Take This Ring
Molly, As you place the ring on Ernie’s finger, Please repeat after me:
I give you this Ring as a reminder
that I will love, honor, and cherish you,
In all times, In all places
And in all ways, forever

And now, to all the friends and family who have come to celebrate this marriage, I pronounce you husband and wife.

You may now kiss the bride!

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